Thursday, May 22, 2008
Who says who?
I suddenly became the target of criticisms and accusation from people who call themselves my friend. You said that you know me personally and that you are quite sick of reading from my blog that I kept mentioning I have 2 maids to look after Natalie. For your information, I only mentioned in my blog twice.
You said you constantly hear it from me again and again, what is the actual content of our conversation? Did I ever say I am a good mother because I need maid to look after my own baby? Are you sure I mean that? If anyone of you has forgotten, I had struggled to come to a decision to work and leave my baby to be taken care of by a maid. I am not proud and never ever have a peace of mind for leaving Natalie to a complete stranger, or worst, 2 complete strangers alone in a house. Doesn't mean that by providing that to a child/baby, it means that the parent is doing a good job! My life does not have any protocol or guideline, why compare yours to mine and feel unbalance about your own? Everyone should live at their own means, you kept saying that you are not jealous about me, but come on isn't that obvious you are. Though you do not want to reveal who you are even though you said you are my friend, I conclude you have not been contacting me for a very long time. If not you won't have left those comments on my blog. By the way, the initial maid that I have is engaged by my father even before I got pregnant. She is not employed under me and she has to do all the household chores including cooking for the whole family of 8 everyday. I had to get a maid myself to look after my precious Natalie because Natalie is my own responsibility. If you still are my friend, you would have know this fact and not make accusation that I am making you feel that you are not a good parent as you cannot afford 2 maids. Parents love can never be replaced by the number of maids you have to care for you baby, so keep that fact right.
People are starting to get very personal whenever they read blogs, HELLOOOOO it is just someone else blog, and someone else life. Don't read in between the lines and start making assumptions and accusations. Come on, someone even said that I should be more "automatic and consider others feelings" when I blog. Should I really do that? You come in to my blog, peeping at my lifestyle and then blame me for being insensitive to others that might be living an inferior life compared to mine. You said I am showing off to my friends, please what kind of friends are you talking about? They aren't my friends if they think like you.
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gosh - you are one of the most show off bloggest around. you blog about how rich you are, how 'generous' you are with money. how 'lucky' you are not to have to work, and then being a hypocrite you decide to go and work. constantly blog about you have two maids, and then more recently you decide to give them extra money..
i think we all can see how you try to disguise your show-off-ness. but c'mon you know deep down in your heart all you want to do is to show off to your friends.
its good being the lucky few in the world, but sometimes it is best keeping things to yourself. you never think or even wonder how do people feel that you have all these wonderful things in life. having two maids taking care of your precious baby. many of us do not... and although they might not tell you in the face that they are jealous of your lifestyle. perhaps you should be more automatic and think about others before blogging.
being an anon reader for over a few months i realise this is exactly what you do. so i really hope you do think about this tag.
May 20, 2008 5:45 PM
well said, anonymous!!!
May 20, 2008 7:19 PM
Anon is so right !!!!! I have a very lucky and good lifestyle, but am always careful about what I blog about and make sure I do not make others feel inadequate by telling the world how fortunate I am.
May 21, 2008 12:26 AM
Hi noelle, I am one of your frequent readers and also know you personally. I am not going to reveal my name here, as all I wanted to say is you should perhaps really think about what your anon said. Although I am your friend, I also feel the same way in which how inadequate I feel whenever I read your posts. We are not jealous, and yes we do envy you. But hearing it over and over again simply makes feel that we are not as good as a mother/parent as you as we cannot afford what you can for Natalie.
I hope you think about this.
May 21, 2008 6:51 PM
People normally display arrogance when they want to feel recognized for some talent or accomplishment viewed as strong, good or right. The driving force behind arrogance comes from the belief that one talent or ability may overshadow all of the parts of one's life that feel bad, wrong or weak, Arrogant then becomes a defensive shield against our own shame, guilt and inadequacy.
May 21, 2008 10:19 PM
It is something that an insecure person would do. Someone who calls herself "Woman of Leisure" tells you all. Desperate for the world to approve of her life.
May 22, 2008 12:56 AM