If $$$ is of no issue, then of cos it's better to be a Stay At Home Mum cos in this case, you could be with your child(ren) and accompany them through their different stages of childhood.
Trust me, every moment is precious like from the time they are born to the time they can flip over, they can sit on their own, then stand, first steps, utter their first "Mummy" or "Daddy", etc.
And believe me, all these stages will pass very quickly so treasure them.
Just a humble opinion from a young parent with two lovely children...
I prefer to be a working mum since I can count on my parents and mother-in-law for help.
I will feel guilty if I am a SAHM and I prefer to spend time doing my own things, like watching dvds, surf net, reading etc instead of keeping my kids engaged all the time.
May I ask when did you have the knots of your stitches removed?
That depends on what you really want. Will keeping you at home looking after Natty curb your desires(if any) to return to workforce and to regain your social life? Or will going back to work makes you miss baby like crazy and wished you have never made that decision? I am a SAHM. I do yearn for a social life outside home at times. I wanna dress up in my best and go to work like the others. However, the many happy moments my baby gave me made me feel that my decision to stay with her is right. Not to mention, staying with her, you get to witness her many firsts and also, nurture her with all your love and time.
Hi Noelle, personally, I feel it is better to work so that you still get some society experience. I am now preggie 7mths but i am sure I will work even when I give birth. Perhaps u wanna try a part time job?
hey! i've been reading your blog for a really long time and i think you and your baby are both absolutely gorgeous! natalie is so adorable!
anyway. my mom has been a stay-at-home mother since i was born. when you're a little girl, you do everything that mom says and try to please your parents. but as i started to grow up i realized that having my mother around me 24/7 was extremely stifling.
every mother wants their child to be the best that they can be, do well in school and not pick up their own bad habits. thus when i was starting to become a teenage, my mom kept preventing me from doing teenage-things as she didnt want me to head down the wrong path. my mom was a wild child herself, and she didnt want me to end up being some extreme-clubber thus keeping track of my homework all the time, and it made me feel very pressured. this lead to terrible quarrels (that i wish never happened) cos i felt my mother was breathing down my neck all the time.
perhaps it's a personality issue as well, both my mom and i have strong personalities which is maybe why we always have differences.
i guess you should stay at home till your baby is more independent, and after that, let her be her own person.
I'm currently a SAHM of 2 kids. all I can say I m very tired!! but one thing abt being a SAHM is, u watch the process of ur kids growing up. always there for them.. which is priceless!!!
sometimes I wish I can go to work, as facing 2 kids, esp super active one is really stress.. but aftall,they're my kids. I'd rather tk cr of them myself.....
& kids grow up really fast! so must treasure the time u spend with ur kids....
Staying in touch with the society is extremely important. Whilst looking after your child is important, it is also imperative you still know what is going on in the working world. In my opinion, part time work is the solution. You can take care of your child, at the same time, also keeping up to date to what is going on.
What may seem like a good idea now is to be a SAHM, but think further on. Once Natalie is a little older, consider working part time. If not, if you spend too much time at home, you'll think too much and start getting too much undesirable ideas.
Once you leave the working society for too long, it is VERY difficult to get back in.
Really appreciate all your views on the idea of being a SAHM. I have been thinking about the possibilities, the pros and cons. Due to my personality I feel that by just looking after Natalie will not be able to curb my desire to work and do my own stuff. I really enjoy my personal space even till now. It's about gaining recognition from your family and your peers. Although that's my thoughts, I am also in a dilemma. Hey I didn't know that there are so many SAHMs,we should set up a discussion group or a club to gather all SAHM together.
hi noelle, i am a mummy of my little prince who is turning ONE next month... Currently, I am in a dilema... if given a choice, i will chose to be a SAHM... no doubts I will have to give up all luxury... all the while my son is being taken care of by my mum... now me and hubby are tinking of getting a maid to look after our precious... cos we stay and work veri far from our mum... all the travelling not only tired us out at the end of the day, the petrol are also burning our pockets... the only concern we have is that if we gets a maid, our son will be alone with her during the day... athou i enjoy working than looking after son, the thought of getting a maid and putting son alone is making me wants to be a SAHM.... we, Mothers just wants the best for our child....
If $$$ is of no issue, then of cos it's better to be a Stay At Home Mum cos in this case, you could be with your child(ren) and accompany them through their different stages of childhood.
ReplyDeleteTrust me, every moment is precious like from the time they are born to the time they can flip over, they can sit on their own, then stand, first steps, utter their first "Mummy" or "Daddy", etc.
And believe me, all these stages will pass very quickly so treasure them.
Just a humble opinion from a young parent with two lovely children...
Hi!
ReplyDeleteI prefer to be a working mum since I can count on my parents and mother-in-law for help.
I will feel guilty if I am a SAHM and I prefer to spend time doing my own things, like watching dvds, surf net, reading etc instead of keeping my kids engaged all the time.
May I ask when did you have the knots of your stitches removed?
i'll prefer to be SAHM as i really wanna participate in every part of the my child's growing up.
ReplyDeletei'll probably start working when my child goes primary one.
I have the same thot as Kierra..
ReplyDeleteIf we can afford for me not to work, I definitely want to be a stay home mother.
ReplyDeleteFor I am a paranoid person and dont know what people are doing to my child. More so, I want to be there to experience the child's many FIRSTs.
I do know of people who cant stay at home all the time. Ultimately, whatever suits you and your hubby.
Definitely a SAHM!
ReplyDeleteThe accomplishment and satisfaction is priceless.
Nothing beats seeing your precious little one grow everyday and being the first to witness her 'firsts'.
I am a SAHM with a 9 months old princess. Though sometimes I missed going back to work, I know I'll missed out even more if I did.
That depends on what you really want.
ReplyDeleteWill keeping you at home looking after Natty curb your desires(if any) to return to workforce and to regain your social life?
Or will going back to work makes you miss baby like crazy and wished you have never made that decision?
I am a SAHM. I do yearn for a social life outside home at times. I wanna dress up in my best and go to work like the others. However, the many happy moments my baby gave me made me feel that my decision to stay with her is right. Not to mention, staying with her, you get to witness her many firsts and also, nurture her with all your love and time.
What do you really want?
Hi Noelle, personally, I feel it is better to work so that you still get some society experience. I am now preggie 7mths but i am sure I will work even when I give birth. Perhaps u wanna try a part time job?
ReplyDeleteif i can afford to stay at home taking care of my kids, i will choose to...if money is not an issue.
ReplyDelete...Mother of 2
i would prefer a sahm coz u can see your baby growing stages if money is not a problem. you shd be SAHM if you can afford. y not man.
ReplyDeletehey!
ReplyDeletei've been reading your blog for a really long time and i think you and your baby are both absolutely gorgeous! natalie is so adorable!
anyway. my mom has been a stay-at-home mother since i was born. when you're a little girl, you do everything that mom says and try to please your parents. but as i started to grow up i realized that having my mother around me 24/7 was extremely stifling.
every mother wants their child to be the best that they can be, do well in school and not pick up their own bad habits. thus when i was starting to become a teenage, my mom kept preventing me from doing teenage-things as she didnt want me to head down the wrong path. my mom was a wild child herself, and she didnt want me to end up being some extreme-clubber thus keeping track of my homework all the time, and it made me feel very pressured. this lead to terrible quarrels (that i wish never happened) cos i felt my mother was breathing down my neck all the time.
perhaps it's a personality issue as well, both my mom and i have strong personalities which is maybe why we always have differences.
i guess you should stay at home till your baby is more independent, and after that, let her be her own person.
I'm currently a SAHM of 2 kids.
ReplyDeleteall I can say I m very tired!!
but one thing abt being a SAHM is, u watch the process of ur kids growing up.
always there for them..
which is priceless!!!
sometimes I wish I can go to work, as facing 2 kids, esp super active one is really stress..
but aftall,they're my kids.
I'd rather tk cr of them myself.....
& kids grow up really fast!
so must treasure the time u spend with ur kids....
:)
Staying in touch with the society is extremely important. Whilst looking after your child is important, it is also imperative you still know what is going on in the working world. In my opinion, part time work is the solution. You can take care of your child, at the same time, also keeping up to date to what is going on.
ReplyDeleteWhat may seem like a good idea now is to be a SAHM, but think further on. Once Natalie is a little older, consider working part time. If not, if you spend too much time at home, you'll think too much and start getting too much undesirable ideas.
Once you leave the working society for too long, it is VERY difficult to get back in.
Think about it. Good luck.
Really appreciate all your views on the idea of being a SAHM. I have been thinking about the possibilities, the pros and cons. Due to my personality I feel that by just looking after Natalie will not be able to curb my desire to work and do my own stuff. I really enjoy my personal space even till now. It's about gaining recognition from your family and your peers.
ReplyDeleteAlthough that's my thoughts, I am also in a dilemma. Hey I didn't know that there are so many SAHMs,we should set up a discussion group or a club to gather all SAHM together.
Hi Noelle, you can join in the fun and chat with mummies in singaporemotherhood.com. Its a vibrant forum. ENjoy.
ReplyDeletehi noelle, i am a mummy of my little prince who is turning ONE next month... Currently, I am in a dilema... if given a choice, i will chose to be a SAHM... no doubts I will have to give up all luxury... all the while my son is being taken care of by my mum... now me and hubby are tinking of getting a maid to look after our precious... cos we stay and work veri far from our mum... all the travelling not only tired us out at the end of the day, the petrol are also burning our pockets... the only concern we have is that if we gets a maid, our son will be alone with her during the day... athou i enjoy working than looking after son, the thought of getting a maid and putting son alone is making me wants to be a SAHM.... we, Mothers just wants the best for our child....
ReplyDelete